You don’t forget the moment you realize your baby is gone. The silence in the ultrasound room. The way time suddenly feels too loud, too heavy. The ache of going home with empty arms when your heart was ready to hold so much more.

And then, on top of the grief, you’re met with whispers, half-truths, and well-meaning but deeply painful comments. “You can try again.” “At least it happened early.” “Something must have been wrong with you.”

If you’ve ever heard those words, you know how they sting. That’s why it’s so important to name the myths around miscarriage and infant loss, because the stories people tell can either heal or harm. And you deserve the truth.

Myth 1: Miscarriage is rare

The truth: Miscarriage is far more common than people realize. Research shows that about 10–20% of known pregnancies end in miscarriage. Knowing this doesn’t make the loss less painful, but it does remind you: you are not an exception, and you are not alone.

Myth 2: It’s always the mother’s fault

Truth: Miscarriage and infant loss almost never happen because of something you did or didn’t do. Most losses are due to genetic, medical, or developmental reasons far outside your and your partner’s control. And it’s important to know that a father’s overall health, things like diet, exercise, and lifestyle, can also play a role. We talked more about this in our video here. Blame has no place here.

Myth 3: You should “move on” quickly

The truth: Grief doesn’t follow a timeline. Whether the loss happened weeks ago or years ago, the love you carry is real, and so is the ache. Healing is not about forgetting, it’s about learning how to live with the love and the loss together.

Myth 4: Pregnancy loss only happens early on

The truth: Miscarriage, stillbirth, and infant loss can happen at any stage of pregnancy or even after birth. Loss later in pregnancy or shortly after delivery is devastating in unique ways, often layered with trauma from labor or delivery. All forms of loss matter.

Myth 5: Talking about miscarriage makes it worse

Truth: Silence is what makes grief heavier. Many parents find healing in sharing their story, joining support groups, or simply having someone listen without judgment. Naming your loss honors your baby’s place in your life.